Wow this one hit real hard. Thanks for the vulnerability. Sometimes it feels like the weight of it all is unbearable. I went through some massive changes myself over the past year, my wife and I moving out of our condo in DC and not being able to sell it (for reasons). The plans we set in place felt like we were getting thrashed around on a rickety old roller coaster (minus the laughing).
But what brought me back to being able to manage it was getting into a new apartment and immediately putting up my personal kanban.
One board is the usual - this week/in progress/blocked/done
Other board is for the goals and routines <--- we wish to create. Boy that's hard one. Gotta start small. Just start with a simple stretch in the morning before committing to doing a walk every day.
Thanks for all your great content Jim and Toni! Hope it all takes a turn for the positive for you and the rest of us!
Absolutely, our ability to find action to get through frustration is partially to distract us (don't dwell) but to get us past it (don't dawdle). One of my issues right now is that Cloudflare has dropped an untold number of customers (can't find my IP addresses), so Modus Institute is dark and has been for several days.
So, weirdly, acting to fix that has been even harder because the problem is so totally out of my hands that all I can do is invent work-arounds and band-aids.
We both will keep up the fight... and thank you for the note, it's extremely helpful when things are ... like this.
Thanks so much for this, Jim, and for sharing your perspective. I can imagine the stress you've been under as you wrote this, and appreciate your seizing the opportunity to transparently encourage others that might find themselves in similar straits.
I've already been working on a kanban board for household chores that just might save my marriage, and I'm inspired to explore an opportunity to work with my son to create a board to help him own some things he's going through right now. Helpless to help him in any other way, I can envision us standing together reviewing his board and talking about how to move things forward. I can envision him getting all the things out of his head, and controlling what he can, and staying connected with others all the while.
I can't express my appreciation for your and Toni's work and the impact it's had over the years. But this post in particular resonates in this moment.
Hey Tim, This post has been interesting for the number of DMs to comments ratio. People responding privately and not just DMs, but texts to my phone... personal avenues.
Substack seems good for this. Being very human, very professional, very vulnerable. I've missed this. My very old blog (back when I had a top tech blog) on typepad was like this.
Posts like this are that balance between helping reinforce these acts in myself, to remind myself that this too is temporary and wits will help survive it, but also to remember that there are so many in my life that are in even more dire straits. Health issues, money issues, relationship issues, or just dealing with the angst of being unable to help others.
Wow this one hit real hard. Thanks for the vulnerability. Sometimes it feels like the weight of it all is unbearable. I went through some massive changes myself over the past year, my wife and I moving out of our condo in DC and not being able to sell it (for reasons). The plans we set in place felt like we were getting thrashed around on a rickety old roller coaster (minus the laughing).
But what brought me back to being able to manage it was getting into a new apartment and immediately putting up my personal kanban.
One board is the usual - this week/in progress/blocked/done
Other board is for the goals and routines <--- we wish to create. Boy that's hard one. Gotta start small. Just start with a simple stretch in the morning before committing to doing a walk every day.
Thanks for all your great content Jim and Toni! Hope it all takes a turn for the positive for you and the rest of us!
Absolutely, our ability to find action to get through frustration is partially to distract us (don't dwell) but to get us past it (don't dawdle). One of my issues right now is that Cloudflare has dropped an untold number of customers (can't find my IP addresses), so Modus Institute is dark and has been for several days.
So, weirdly, acting to fix that has been even harder because the problem is so totally out of my hands that all I can do is invent work-arounds and band-aids.
We both will keep up the fight... and thank you for the note, it's extremely helpful when things are ... like this.
Thanks so much for this, Jim, and for sharing your perspective. I can imagine the stress you've been under as you wrote this, and appreciate your seizing the opportunity to transparently encourage others that might find themselves in similar straits.
I've already been working on a kanban board for household chores that just might save my marriage, and I'm inspired to explore an opportunity to work with my son to create a board to help him own some things he's going through right now. Helpless to help him in any other way, I can envision us standing together reviewing his board and talking about how to move things forward. I can envision him getting all the things out of his head, and controlling what he can, and staying connected with others all the while.
I can't express my appreciation for your and Toni's work and the impact it's had over the years. But this post in particular resonates in this moment.
Hey Tim, This post has been interesting for the number of DMs to comments ratio. People responding privately and not just DMs, but texts to my phone... personal avenues.
Substack seems good for this. Being very human, very professional, very vulnerable. I've missed this. My very old blog (back when I had a top tech blog) on typepad was like this.
Posts like this are that balance between helping reinforce these acts in myself, to remind myself that this too is temporary and wits will help survive it, but also to remember that there are so many in my life that are in even more dire straits. Health issues, money issues, relationship issues, or just dealing with the angst of being unable to help others.
When we can, we must. Each in our own way.